Love is always bestowed as a gift - freely, willingly and without expectation. We don't love to be loved; we love to love. - Leo Buscaglia
True, but so hard to do. Expectations lead to disappointment. But is the lack of any expectation just an acceptance of the status quo? Without expectations, how do we achieve goals, or build relationships, or succeed at anything?
I'm struggling today with the balance between expectation and acceptance. Is accepting something that is less than I want a good thing? Is lowering expectations to meet the lack of enthusiasm of another how I want to live? Do I just settle for less than in order to remove all expectation of fulfillment? And, why would I do that? But, what is going to happen if I don't do that?
Facing a future disappointment seems more frustrating and heartbreaking than having high expectations and getting disappointed until I can figure something else out. Settling...is there a positive way to look at that? It sounds to me like it lacks passion. Fulfillment. Fun.
No one has ever said life, or love, would be easy.